9:55 a.m. - 2005-08-04
To Throw or Not To Throw?
Okay. Here’s my conundrum:
Should people keep mementoes from their previous relationships? I personally have a hatbox that I’ve kept several things in, including some tidbits from my marriage. I’m not sure why exactly. I never pull it out and sift through the memories. I’ve just kept them for some reason.
Is this normal? Is it healthy? Is it necessary?
I suppose if you wanted to remember the pleasant things from the relationship, it would be a good idea. I suppose, in turn, if you wanted to remember the bad things and why you were no longer with them, it would be a good idea. But isn’t that what our own memories are for? I have no trouble remembering the good and bad and find that the pictures and such are not really important.
I encountered a few photos from the Boyfriends past and found it shocked me into reality. I didn’t like thinking he had posed with that smile with someone else. It made me feel replaceable. However, when he asked if he should throw them away, I found I couldn’t really make him do it with a clear conscious. After all, I had many of the same types of pictures. Not to mention, you shouldn’t have to ask someone to throw something away. Either they do it because their ready or they don’t.
I think I’ll be cleaning my hatbox out this weekend. I see no reason to keep such things, and can’t see how I’ll really regret it.
